DO NOT tolerate this in any relationship, ever.
I am occasionally guilty of #2 and feel bad about it.
I maintain that I am not guilty of #3 despite the fact that I won’t do my wife’s laundry. I’ll do mine, and the kids’ laundry, but my wife has rules that are different for different specific items of clothing and even she can’t always keep them straight without seeing it, so if she tells me “everything can go in the dryer except the blue shirt” it really means “oh and also not three other things I forgot were in that load” and I really don’t want to ruin her clothes.
Other than that I feel like I’m pretty much good. Not to say this is an unfair list – I have seen a lot of this behavior around. It’s super pathetic.