you should literally never tell anyone a trans person’s birth name
somehow cis people have a habit of telling me about their “trans friend” (probably a friend of a friend) by saying “oh you should meet my friend diana! she used to be doug!” wink wink nudge nudge
DISCLOSING A TRANS PERSON’S BIRTH NAME IS NEVER NECESSARY AND IS AN ACT OF VIOLENCE.
If you force an introvert into a social gathering they don’t feel comfortable with/don’t want to go to you are responsible for their good time.
You have to include them in conversations or go sit with them when they have no one to talk to.
Because if you can’t do that, don’t make them come. Don’t force them in a situation where they feel alone and helpless and leave them floundering.
“But it’s good for them to get out.” You’re not making me adapt. You’re not making me more social. You’re reinforcing every negative opinion I have on these gatherings and giving me the resolve to say ‘Fuck off’ the next time you try this.
I would also like to add to this rule. Do not trap them there. Make sure they have a way to get home without you or you are willing to take them home if they feel uncomfortable. Even if you do spend time with them and make sure they have a good time let them leave if they want. Social interaction even with people they know and like can be tiring and they can’t always keep up with extroverts.
