narutofoxlover:

perfectlycriminal:

pajamajamas:

dickensianwerewolf:

If you have a child and they are creeped out by a nephew or older brother touching them or looking at them a certain way, you need to have a serious talk with that person and keep them the hell away from your child. Don’t minimize it or tell your kid to hug them anyway, that kid is picking up danger signals they don’t even understand yet. But so many families will tell that kid they are being a brat.

thankyou

A quick note- this applies to female relatives as well. One of my aunts ignores my little brother’s requests not to hug or kiss him (he has aspergers and doesn’t like physical contact with people he is not very close with). I have repeatedly placed myself between the two of them and had to tell her to back off and stop trying to “desensitize” him. Whether or not there are “danger signals,” it is not okay for adults to invalidate a child or teen’s request for boundaries. We need to teach children now, when they are young, that they can say no to these things and that other people can too.

Me and my little brother were actually sexually assaulted by our older cousin when we were little. Well, I almost was. I had the sense to get out of the room to go tell my parents something weird was going on and when we all came back upstairs he had my brother on the floor with his pants and boxers down. Years later after getting out of juvie he sexually assaulted his little sister. Having already been raped in the past, she was pretty traumatized and never said anything till after she moved away. This all started because his mother left a neighbor she didn’t even know watch him as a child and the neighbor sexually assaulted him. Children who get sexually assaulted have a tendency to do the same to others when they get older.